Coaching ADHD College Students To Coach Themselves
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2008-12-30)
Parents write: Our ADHD college student won¡¦t read books about ADHD but needs guidance. What are some key tips that he could quickly read in a rush like he reads everything else?
The challenges of balancing a rigorous academic schedule with the lure of relaxation and social temptation c...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: Coaching Successful Adjustment To College Life
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2008-12-30)
Parents write: What advice do you have f or the freshman college student who tells us she can’t wait to leave home? We know there will be some adjustment process but we’re unsure if she will take her time and make good decisions once she doesn’t have us breathing down her back.
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The Parent Coach: Managing Summertime Moodiness
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2006-06-05)
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A parent writes: The summer ...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: Make Camp An Enjoyable Experience
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2006-06-05)
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A parent writes: Each time overni...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: Providing Summer Structure
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2006-05-26)
A parent writes: As the school year comes to a close, and summer vacation is just around the corner, my husband and I grow apprehensive. Without the structure and routine of school, our three kids become more unruly. It seems like they thrive on tormenting each other, and I end up playing t...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: Managing Summertime Moodiness
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2006-05-26)
The Parent Coach: Managing Summertime Moodiness
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The Parent Coach: Make Camp An Enjoyable Experience
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2006-05-26)
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A parent writes: Each time overnight ...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: Sports Coaching The Child With ADHD
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2005-04-24)
Countless parents of children with ADHD face the daunting question, "What do I tell my child's coach about his/her problem, and do I dare say anything at all?". This dilemma pits parent's instincts to help their child against fears that revelations will backfire. Considering the varied and cont...Read more |
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Coaching Acceptance Of ADHD and Learning Disabilities
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2004-12-18)
A parent writes: My teenage son is very upset about having been diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and other learning differences. Not only does he deny that he has them but each time I try to speak with him about these conditions he gets angry and shuts down. Wh...Read more |
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Adolescent Impulsivity: Coaching The Rules Of The Road, Part IV
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
In my final article on impulsivity, I turn my attention to adolescents. It is especially daunting to coach social and emotional skills to this age group, in part due to the developmental push to resist adult authority and conform to peer cultures. But other factors must be also considered. Adoles...Read more |
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Classroom Coaching: Bringing Skills On-Line
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
One of the many challenges faced by teachers, counselors, and parents when coaching emotional and social skills to children is how to foster the use of tools at the point when they are most needed, i.e., the point of performance. Many children can learn new skills when they are presented in a...Read more |
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Classroom Coaching: Developing Constructive Internal Language
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
School is one of the most potent influences upon the social and emotional development of our children. Peer pressures, teacher evaluations, academic challenges, and a host of other forces await our kids everyday. These forces shape children’s evolving repertoire of life skills in a variety of way...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: Coaching Calmness In The Anxious Child
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
A parent writes: I am increasingly concerned about my child’s ability to cope with every day stress. A lot of things in his life make him tense and become preoccupied. This anxiety can happen suddenly or can build over the course of a day, and sometimes make him avoid things he enjoys. I try to ...Read more |
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Coaching Conversation Skills
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
A parent writes: I am very concerned about my daughter’s social skills. Even though she’s ten years old she doesn’t know how to properly keep conversations going with peers and may sabotage them by making silly or unrelated comments. Any suggestions?
Most children develop age appropriate s...Read more |
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Coaching Self-Motivation In The Unmotivated Child
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
Parents write, “With the new year upon us, we would like to retire from our jobs as motivaters, negotiators, and full time rule enforcers for our children. Our kids have become too dependent upon us to push them to fulfill their responsibilities, and turn off the tv, computers and video system. W...Read more |
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Coaching Social Maturity In Middle School
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
A parent writes, “Our middle school daughter seems out of step with her peer group. In the company of peers she will sabotage her efforts by acting immature or offering comments that don’t make sense. My husband and I think she is clueless and too hungry for attention. Any ideas on what we can do...Read more |
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Coaching Sportsmanship
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
A parent writes, “I’m having a problem with my 9 year old son. He’s doing fine in school except when it comes to recess. The daily football game, and other league competition, is too much for him. He argues, becomes defensive, and even screams at and kicks other players at times. What can I do ...Read more |
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Coaching The Child Who Feels Like A Victim
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
Parents write: Is there such a thing as a child having a “victim complex?” Our preteen son often views the world in terms of what others are doing to him or what he is not getting. As much as we try to convince him otherwise he still persists. What should we do?
All of us perceive events with...Read more |
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Coaching The Controlling Child
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
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A parent writes, “One of our family’s big challenges is the ongoing debate between my husband and I over how strict vs. how lenient we should be. Our kids complain that we are too stric...Read more |
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Stay In Lane-Proceed With Caution! No Passing Ahead: Coaching The Rules Of The Road
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
In my last article, “Classroom Coaching: Bringing Skills On-Line,” I introduced the metaphor of driving to help children understand how observing clues in their environment helps them to cope better with the different “roads” in their lives, i.e, school, family life, friends’ homes, etc. The i...Read more |
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Tolerance Among Siblings
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
My 8 year old son used to treat his 5 year old brother very well until these past six months or so. Now he torments him with put downs, baiting behaviors, and by pushing him away. Any suggestions?”
The emotions that flow between siblings provide for some of the best and worst moments of fami...Read more |
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With Teens’ Desire For Freedom
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
A parent writes, “I have a twelve year old girl who thinks she is going on twenty-one. She wants more freedom as far as going places with her friends as a group. I am questioning how much freedom do you allow a twelve year old to have? It’s always a constant struggle between us lately.”
Pare...Read more |
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Dealing With The Middle School Years
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
A parent writes: “We’ve had it with our middle school son. It seemed like he changed when he turned twelve. It’s been down hill since then. Arguments, moodiness, over-reactions, you name it, he’s got it. But the rest of us don’t want it! Is this just a phase or are we destined to share our home...Read more |
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Dealing With Your Children’s Issues
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-12-11)
A parent writes, “I can’t figure out my son. He’s so unpredictable; sometimes when things don’t go his way, he takes it in stride. Other times he falls apart over the same situation. I try to talk to him about it later but that leads nowhere. What’s going on and what can I do about it?”
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Taming The Struggle Between Father and Son (or Daughter)
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2002-11-03)
A mother writes, "My husband and our 16 year old son have difficulties in their relationship. Our son complains that his father is always judging and criticizing him. My husband complains that our son is mocking and evasive. In my mind the problem is the two of them can't stand each other becaus...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: Dealing With Your Children's Issues
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2001-06-08)
A parent writes, "I can't figure out my son. He's so unpredictable;
sometimes when things don't go his way, he takes it in stride. Other times he
falls apart over the same situation. I try to talk to him about it later but
that leads nowhere. What's going on and what can I do about it?"
Si...Read more |
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Adolescent Impulsivity: Coaching The Rules Of The Road (Part IV)
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
In my final article on impulsivity, I turn my attention to adolescents. It is especially daunting to coach social and emotional skills to this age group, in part due to the developmental push to resist adult authority and conform to peer cultures. But other factors must be also considered. Adoles...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: Removing The Barriers Between Generations
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
"How can I stay connected to my teenager? The last thing he wants to do is to talk to me. Especially in today's world, I'm worried that we're growing too far apart."
Keeping the doors of communication open with an adolescent is tricky for most parents. This transitional time between childhood ...Read more |
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Parenting Pointers: Coaching A Stronger Sibling Bond
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
"My 8 year old son used to treat his 5 year old brother very well until these past six months or so. Now he torments him with put downs, baiting behaviors, and by pushing him away. Any suggestions?"
The emotions that flow between siblings provide for some of the best and worst moments of famil...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: Matching Your Coaching Approach To Your Child
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
A letter from a parent reads: "In addition to Parent Coaching Cards, what else can I do to help my child develop higher Social And Emotional Intelligence? My child is resistant to my attempts to talk about these issues."
Of the many contributions to a child's ultimate success in life, the pres...Read more |
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How Far Do We Stretch The Rubberband? Coaching Social & Emotional Skills To 3-6 Year Olds
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
It is critical that coaching consider a child's temperament. Temperament can be likened to a rubber band that has definite form but also stretches to some extent to accommodate what is being asked of it. The form of the rubber band symbolizes the inborn nature that our kids bring to the world, su...Read more |
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ParentCop vs. ParentCoach: Repairing The Tear In Parenting Styles
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
Today's column is devoted to one of the common and recurrent issues that I have observed in myself and within my practice. Broadly defined, it has to do with how we can enhance our efforts as parents by learning how to observe ourselves in order to upgrade our skills. Narrowly defined, it's a pro...Read more |
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Parenting Preschoolers: The Short-Order Cook And The Lunchtime Rush
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
When I think back a few years ago to when both of my sons were precariously nestled in this age range, here's what comes to mind. First, the rhythm of family life was often unpredictable and filled with discovery and emotion. "Unpredictable" because children in this age range are subject to many ...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: The Column For Proactive Parents (Jan 2000)
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
A parent writes: "My first grade daughter is normally happy and enthusiastic about going to school. But recently she has begun to complain, act babyish, and show much resistance to leaving each morning. She expresses how unfair it is that her younger brother gets to play all day in preschool and ...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: The Column For Proactive Parents (Feb 2000)
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
A parent writes: "We've had it with our middle school son. It seemed like he changed when he turned twelve. It's been down hill since then. Arguments, moodiness, over-reactions, you name it, he's got it. But the rest of us don't want it! Is this just a phase or are we destined to share our home w...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: The Column For Proactive Parents (Mar 2000)
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
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The Parent Coach: The Column For Proactive Parents (Apr 2000)
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
"What advice do you have about bullying? Our sixth grader is a smart and pleasant kid who usually enjoys school. His teachers describe him as a capable and enthusiastic learner who gets along well with his peers. Unfortunately, they don't hear the taunts and see the bullying that takes place behi...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: The Column For Proactive Parents (May 2000)
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
A parent writes: "As the school year comes to a close, and summer vacation is just around the corner, my husband and I grow apprehensive. Without the structure and routine of school, our three kids become more unruly. It seems like they thrive on tormenting each other, and I end up playing the ro...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: The Column For Proactive Parents (Jun 2000)
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
A parent writes: "Each time overnight camp season rolls around, my kids express much excitement about the fun that awaits them. Although I am glad they see camp in a positive light I worry that some of the problems that have cropped up in past years might be repeated. Teasing by their bunkmates, ...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: The Column For Proactive Parents (Jul 2000)
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
A parent writes: "Do you have any advice for family vacations? My husband and I often conflict over expectations and consequences when we travel with our kids. I feel like he doesn't make allowances for the fact that we are away from home. He accuses me of always rescuing the kids from his punis...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: The Column For Proactive Parents (Aug 2000)
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
A parent writes: "With the start of school around the corner, my thoughts turn to the social challenges my son faces among his peers. He has a great deal of trouble fitting into the group. Other kids are annoyed by his tendencies to talk too much and demonstrate his knowledge. This has been going...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: The Column For Proactive Parents (Sep 2000)
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
A parent writes: "I have a twelve year old girl who thinks she is going on twenty-one. She wants more freedom as far as going places with her friends as a group. I am questioning how much freedom do you allow a twelve year old to have? It's always a constant struggle between us lately."
Parent...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: The Column For Proactive Parents (Oct 2000)
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
A parent writes: "What advice do you have about negative influences? Our teenage son is drifting towards the wrong crowd. We've tried to talk to him about it but he shuts down. We don't want to choose his friends but feel the need to do something. Help!"
Friendships occupy positions of extr...Read more |
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The Parent Coach: The Column For Proactive Parents (Nov 2000)
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-12)
A parent writes: "I'm becoming increasingly worried about our twelve year old son's problems with impulsivity. I don't think he would ever hurt anyone on purpose but he's very big and strong for his age, and he has ADHD. He can sound, and even act, very threatening at times. What should I do abou...Read more |
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What Is A Parent Coach?
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-11)
Parenting asks us to fill many roles in our children's lives. Provider, nurturer, advisor, friend, observer, authority figure, confidante, tutor, the list goes on and on. Often times these roles conflict with one another. No doubt every parent has experienced the sense of being pulled in opposite...Read more |
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Why Is Coaching So Important?
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-11)
Childhood follows the example set by the computer: it keeps being reinvented. Advancements are continuously introduced that raise standards and improve quality but these ultimately lead to more complex problems in function. Today's world offers children the richest opportunities for intellectual ...Read more |
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When The Coach Needs Just As Much Coaching
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-11)
Parenthood can be compared to a journey of discovery. Many of us embark on the trip with the best of intentions, filled with expectations of satisfaction and images of family harmony. Some of us are better equipped than others to realize these dreams. Necessary equipment includes patience, determ...Read more |
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To Coach or Not To Coach: The Line Between Helping and Hindering
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-11)
Parents planning to coach their children to social and emotional success need more than tools, such as Parent Coaching Cards, to get the job done. Along with the virtues of patience, determination and insight, is the need for an often overlooked, but key coaching ingredient: support for autonomy....Read more |
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Classroom Coaching Part I: Developing Constructive Internal Language
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-11)
School is one of the most potent influences upon the social and emotional development of our children. Peer pressures, teacher evaluations, academic challenges, and a host of other forces await our kids everyday. These forces shape children's evolving repertoire of life skills in a variety of way...Read more |
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Classroom Coaching Part II: Bringing Skills On-Line
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-11)
One of the many challenges faced by teachers, counselors, and parents when coaching emotional and social skills to children is how to foster the use of tools at the point when they are most needed, i.e., the point of performance. Many children can learn new skills when they are presented in a ne...Read more |
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Stay In Lane! Proceed With Caution! No Passing Ahead: Coaching The Rules Of The Road (Part I)
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-11)
In my last article, "Classroom Coaching: Bringing Skills On-Line," I introduced the metaphor of driving to help children understand how observing clues in their environment helps them to cope better with the different "roads" in their lives, i.e, school, family life, friends' homes, etc. The inte...Read more |
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"What Do We Do About The Impulsive ""Driver?"": Coaching The Rules Of The Road (Part II)"
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-11)
One of the most aggravating, and sometimes frightening, aspects of parenting, teaching, and counseling children is impulsive behavior and unthinking decision making. Whether it be the prospect of a child crossing the street without looking both ways, bothering his classmates with incessant noises...Read more |
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"The School Aged ""Impulsive Driver"": Coaching The Rules Of The Road (Part III)"
Contributed by: Dr. Steven Richfield (Posted on 2000-12-11)
In this second article addressing the problems of impulsivity, I extend the coaching program to the needs of children in elementary school. Readers are referred "Coaching The Rules Of The Road: Part II," for general pointers on how impulsivity is understood within my coaching model.
As a psyc...Read more |
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